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I stumbled upon this topic in the archives and am shocked to read what I am reading. I wet the bed until was 9, my older sister was 11 and my kid sister was 14! I cannot speak for them, but I was sickened by doing this and I couldn't stop it. I was so young and so completely humiliated by this thing I couldn't stop. I didn't drink hours before bed, mother dragged us to the dr. Most helpful to me was when my mother helped me clean up and said nothing. My father beat me to a pulp one morning and stuck my face in the sheets. I never peed in the bed again, but I have been in therapy since I was 19 years old. I will be 40 in a few months. A few years ago I was thumbing through a book "You can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay (not really my cup of tea, a bit mainstream for me) and looked up bed wetting. She says probable cause: "Fear of parent, usually the father". In that moment I knew why I wet the bed. I think that any treatment not taking into account all aspects of a child's possible stressors is short sighted and damaging. A child dose not always pee in the bed for attention or out of spite. Children are not like house pissing cats. With all the good this website does, there are topics that are "beyond the scope" and should be seen as such. Or at least suggest that parents seek counseling especially for something so psychologically rooted, perhaps after eliminating the possibility of a UTI, or allergy. Any kid who can't stop peeing in the bed is afraid of something or someone. Thanks for the time and the space.
Carole
In Reply to: bed wetting posted by Magpie the goat on December 06, 2002 at 22:49:53:
Hi, Carole.
In MY experience most enuresis is simply a hypersensitivity to something they were eating regularly.
Most stopped within a few days of eliminating dairy and, of those who did not stop most stopped by eliminating wheat. A very few had to eliminate both.
The psychological problems are additive and are mostly produced by the parents frustration at the bother and their misunderstanding as to how they are contributing to the problem.
Walt
In Reply to: bed wetting posted by Magpie the goat on December 06, 2002 at 22:49:53:
You are suggesting that any kid that cannot stop wetting the bed is afraid of someone or something. Thats not always the case either. There is also a problem with children that sleep so deeply they cannot wake up. So you can purchase a specially made alarm goes off when the child wets to wake the child up. Pretty soon the child is conditioned to wake up immediately when they start to wet. I think its horrible that children are shamed or humiliated for bed wetting. Its so embarassing to the child too.
In Reply to: to Carole - bed wetting posted by Barb on December 07, 2002 at 12:31:37:
You are right, being shamed or humilitated for bedwetting does absolutely nothing for the child's self-esteem.
In Reply to: to Carole - bed wetting posted by Barb on December 07, 2002 at 12:31:37:
ok, so what do you do with a bedwetting child? my son is 11. he pees in bed nearly every night. We've tried everything. Alarms. He sleeps right through them. Waking him up twice a night, which is like waking the dead. Limiting fluids. Forget it. Therapy, which was embarrassing for him and didn't work. DDAVP, which didn't work. We do yoga every night. We don't eat much wheat or drink much dairy, and not on a daily basis either. Ideas? Do we just wait it out?
In Reply to: Re: to Carole - bed wetting posted by Virgie on December 09, 2002 at 23:55:24:
Virgie.
If wheat or dairy, or the combination, is the problem the SLIGHTEST TRACE will continue it. The only way you can know if this is even a part of the problem is to be CERTAIN the diet is TOTALLY free of this for at least 2 weeks, If the problem is not gone forget about this as a contributing cause.
Let us know what happens and then we can go further--if necessary. There is no point in wasting typing time until you know what happens.
Let us know.
Walt
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