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epstein in France

I have been reading through your archives and thouroughly agree with your wellness program and advice. Its just trying to sell this idea to my 18 year old sister who lives with my mother/family who are not very healthy-living. She has now had the virus/symptoms for four months. She has the joint pains pretty badly and cannot walk sometimes, and all the chronic fatigue symptoms.I got her to go to a doctor at a healing arts center who is in line with your program. My sister followed the diet for about a month and felt better, so after this she fell back to her old ways and began to over exert herself. She crashed even harder than before and looks horrible. She has seen 11 doctors. Each one seemingly worse than the last. at least one nurse at an emergency room (my sister had to go last weekend after extreme joint pain and the inability to get warm one night)suggested a good diet. My Mom wants to stop sending my sister to this alternative doctor it seems to hocus-pocus for them, they are looking for a quick cure. BUt this is all background info. I believe your advice is the way to go, I am working on proving this to my family.

In the mean time the more poignant question is about travel. my sister is determined to fly to france with my whole family for my wedding. This is in exactly one months time. Travel is exausting, L.A to Paris, my sister really wants to go but i dont want to jeprodize her health and have her in a french emergency room. what do you suggest? She is staring back on a better diet,and after two days of eating better she feels a little better, I will be looking for that ester C powder. and she has begun to exercise her arms lightly, they were beginning to look atrophied. Should she just stay home? It will really depress her. My family never travels and this is a once in a lifetime deal for many of them, hopefully not my 18 year old sister though. I know she will not be able to be doing long walks. what do you think. My mother wants a better informed opinion than just mine, I don't blame her.

Thank you for this web site, it inspired me and i am now getting set to become an expert on the epstein bar virus.My sister has a lot of family support they just dont now how to help her and are getting so frustrated by the docters who offer only drugs, just for your information, one doctor gave her a very strong antibiotic and it almost killed her, no exagerattion. she was deathly alergic to it and it was burning her skin. This is ridiculous. I will be checking your website often. I will try to get my mother to buy your book. I dont have $$ right now for it but am mailing away a self addresed stamped envelope to you tommorrow.
thanks, concerned sister Tiffany

Follow Ups:

• Re: epstein in France ( A manipulative patient.) Archive in EBV. Walt Stoll 06:14:11 5/14/03 (0)

In Reply to: epstein in France posted by Tiffany Estrada on May 13, 2003 at 01:03:40:

Hi, Tiffany.

Just as your sister is the only one who can decide how to live her life, so must you learn that no matter how much you love her you cannot make her learn something she doesn't want to learn. You have heard of the old adage: "You can take a horse to water but you cannot make him drink."? This is exactly what is happening here.

The EBV diagnosis is meaningless. Even the conventional physicians have admitted that they have no treatment for it. Of course that does not stop them from "practicing" on the patient and continuing to hold out false hope (good for business).

I think your sister should go on the trip and you should opt out of the probably inevitable emergency room trips in France. Her health will be in no more jeopardy during the trip than it would be at home. Perhaps the whole family should stay home to "take care of her" :o(. Remember that SHE is choosing this life! This is YOUR wedding and there is no reason for you to have one concern about her during this whole time. What she has will NOT kill her. It will only make her WISH she were dead.

Let her mother and other members of the family, who want to be manipulated by your sister, live that life. All you can do is love her as she is until she becomes a total care for those who have helped her make this lifestyle choice; and then till she passes. She may outlive all of you unless her doctors kill her. You know that medical treatment is now the 3rd most common cause of death in this country.

I am being blunt because you do not deserve this. However, so far, you are choosing to opt into her decisions rather than live your life. That is not very healthy, you know, when you have no control over the situation.

Hope this helps.

Walt