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Anxiety

This may seem very strange and totally irrational, but I tend to worry so much about having some kind of reproductive disease that I start to feel pain around my adominal area. Not sure if its real or psychosomaticIve had tests to make sure I don't have any STDs and my periods are pretty regular.But I can't stop obsessing about the prospect of not being able to have children.
I would like to have a scan of some sort to check that my tubes are'nt twisted and that I don't have any large cysts but am reluctant to ask my doctor.
I have also requested to see a therapist but there is a 3 month waiting list and I am becoming very depressed.

Follow Ups:

• Re: Anxiety Been there 11:04:53 10/03/02 (1)
  • Re: Anxiety Me Too 13:44:53 10/03/02 (0)
• Re: Anxiety (Archive in infertility.) Walt Stoll 08:25:15 10/02/02 (0)
• Mind Games Wendy O. 18:19:08 10/01/02 (0)
• Re: Anxiety Terri-Lynn 17:36:52 10/01/02 (0)

In Reply to: Anxiety posted by Sarah on October 01, 2002 at 13:32:19:

Hi Sara,

Am i getting this right Sara, your concern is because you want a baby and you might be getting impatient?

Fear can really shut the body down a lot, it might be better to just get a check up, to help your own mind, to let go of it.

I can feel that your off a lot emotionally over this and that can shut down the abdomen area. [claim inner peace at the core of your being] You can feel the feelings you have and watch the fear and just not choose to go there, another words don't feed any fuel to it, just watch the mind. The positive note i would say to you is just say to yourself back- that everything is in perfect Divine Order and if there is anything you need to know you will intuitively be guided 100%, and then drop the worry. We tell people if it does not feel 100% right it is 100% wrong. Remember your thought patterns do effect your physical body! We are Body, Mind and Spirit!

i were you i would really pull off all sweets and look into a candida diet, that feels right at this time for you. I think there is also something you are eating that is setting off your emotions and worry even more. Do SR. also-Skilled Relaxation! Move into Wellness Confidence! Sometimes the mind can see more problems then solutions and then we can all feel in a box at those times, but there is always a solution, keep exploring.
You know something interesting over 16 years of doing breath session for people there is a group of us that noticed that women have been able to get pregnate easier. Probably because it helps one let go of tension and worry and provides an alkaline body and puts a lot of oxygen to the cells ect.On your own listen to a meditation tape and practice some breathing exercises!

In Reply to: Anxiety posted by Sarah on October 01, 2002 at 13:32:19:

Hi Sarah,

I'm not really in any position of authority (or knowledge) to talk about this problem... But I did have a thought that I wanted to share with you. Please feel free to disregard.

When I want to accomplish something, I often play "mind games" with myself. I majored in drama, so maybe that's why... But I generally find that I can manipulate myself fairly easily just by committing to a different tone mentally, etc.

If I were in your shoes, I would try to forget about the goal of having children. Instead, I would focus on the goal of --- for once in my life --- making my body/mind as healthy as I can *possibly* be. I would immerse myself in this goal, and tell myself that I did NOT want to even begin to think about having children until I truly felt that my body was a disease-fighting, strong, super-immune powerhouse. I would make this my quest: getting my body/mind the healthiest *I* can be, so that I may prepare myself to eventually create and nurture a child.

As Terri-Lynn mentioned, these seem to be the ways to improve the chance of conception anyway... so you have nothing to lose.

Take care, and as I said, please feel free to disregard my comment if I've offended you, etc..

:) Wendy

In Reply to: Anxiety posted by Sarah on October 01, 2002 at 13:32:19:

Hi, Sarah.

The best way I know of to be infertile is to obscess about it.

There are so many instances where a woman tried for years to get pregnant and finally gave up and adopted--and THEN immediately got pregnant, that there is even a syndrome named for it.

Listen to Terri-Lynn and Wendy O. AND read Dr Airola's book.

Let us know when the blessed event occurs.

Walt

In Reply to: Anxiety posted by Sarah on October 01, 2002 at 13:32:19:

If you've been trying to get pregnant, go see a reproductive endocrinologist. If this is just a fear that SOMEDAY you'll have trouble, relax and don't worry about it now-there's no point. Chances are very good (96% or so?) that nothing's wrong. And even if there is something wrong, there's probably not much you can do now.

If you ARE seriously trying and can't get pregnant, go see a doctor.

The fact is, sometimes relaxing isn't enough. My husband and I are faced with male factor infertility-which is pretty tough to treat. We don't want to continue with high-tech medical treatments (which are VERY stressful and unhealthy), so we'll never have bio children.

I've accepted this now and have a very happy, satisfied life, with the most wonderful husband. I don't feel sorry for myself, and it ISN'T the worst thing in the world, like I thought it was in the beginning. Someday we'll adopt, but for now, we're having too much fun just the two of us.

Anyway, I think the hardest part of our infertility journey was back when we didn't know why we weren't getting pregnant. It was such a mystery, and timing sex just ain't fun.

After we found out that relaxing and timing sex weren't going to do a damn thing, we were able to get on with life.

Follow Ups:

• Re: Anxiety Me Too 13:44:53 10/03/02 (0)

In Reply to: Re: Anxiety posted by Been there on October 03, 2002 at 11:04:53:

Hi Been There,

My husband and I have also dealt with male factor infertility. I also have a small contributory part in that my right tube is blocked, although my left one is wide open and by all tests I ovulate normally.

We have just taken this as the path that we are on. I also have a wonderful husband and we love each other so much and enjoy our life not having the responsibility of kids. We have tons of freedom and can just pick up and go any time we like.

In fact, once the urologist told us that our chances of having a child with the severity of my husband's problem is like .01%, we just stopped thinking about the possibility and things started happening that if we had a child, we would have been in a very difficult position. Because of these situations in our life, I am very glad that I don't have children and the option of adoption is just not in the cards for us. Maybe much later we could adopt an older child. All depends on our circumstances.