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Posted by Teri on February 15, 2000 at 12:39:39:

My eleven year old son has always been a worrier. He has many stresses and I'd like to help him to relax. Last Saturday a.m. he had a baseball tryout. He really wants to make the Majors. By afternoon, he had broken out in hives.
It's been 4 days since the tryouts but everyday, in the evening usually, he breaks out again. He also has a girlfriend at school. She "dumped" him the other day which really effected him emotionally. Of course, the next day they got back together. So, his emotional life is a see-saw. He has 3 brothers and his 14 year old one makes life miserable for him in that he is criticized for everything
he says or does. He thinks he's stupid and fat. Regardless of the encouragement he gets from his parents,
the straight A's he has, little girls wanting to be his girlfriend, the maturity and discipline he shows, he still
is not a confident little boy. I want to teach him how to relax. Would you recommend that I read your SR book and then try to teach him or do you have a child's level type of book? Thanks for your input.



Re: Hives : Teaching SR in a child. Nugget and archive in SR.

Posted by Walt Stoll on February 16, 2000 at 15:57:47:

In Reply to: Hives posted by Teri on February 15, 2000 at 12:39:39:

Hi, Teri.

First, you need to know that 11-14 is the least likely age for children to learn a skill like this even though this is EXACTLY what he needs. The book you need is "Meditating with Children" by Deborah Rozman. It was first published in 1975 (by University of the Trees Press) with many printings since then. The hooker is that you will have to do it WITH him until it is working for him and then till it is apparent to him how much happier he is doing it.

THEN, he will have a powerful skill that his siblings do not have!

No one knows for sure why this age is so tough but the suspicion is that many this age are beginning to think that they already know all that there is to know and SO just refuse to learn it. One of the ways I have seen parents get around this is by focusing on the gadgetry of biofeedback when needed.

NEXT, if you have read the "Modern Medical Interpretation of Stress", in the article on the homepage, you already know that less than 10% of the stress-effect that causes this is psychosocial. All the stressors you have mentioned here are psychosocial.

By the way, you could push the cliff away from HIM, by improving his brain chemistry. See my book and the book by Dr Gary Null: "Nutrition and the mind".

Let us know how he does.

Walt



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