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Posted by -------- on December 07, 2002 at 21:00:07:

Hi

can anyone tell me how you know if you are addicted to sex? I think I maybe.

Is there anything wrong with this other than the obvious, sex diseases/pregnancy?




Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by Sounder on December 07, 2002 at 22:51:29:

In Reply to: Sex Addiction posted by -------- on December 07, 2002 at 21:00:07:

Are you the president?

No seriously, an addiction is something that is compulsively done despite negative consequences. Sounds to me like YOU think you might have a problem. Might want to explore that with a counselor. Yes, there can be psychological problems from sex addiction. I mean emotional consequences for you and one or more partners.

S



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by ------------ on December 07, 2002 at 23:03:01:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by Sounder on December 07, 2002 at 22:51:29:

Yes, somewhat risky behaviour, but so far ok. but i think about it everyday, and want it everyday. and find this frustrating and also because its like it has a mind of its own, until i have sex. i find it unlikeme, but it feels like an addiction. i get antsy until i get it. sorry for being graphic here.

I am not the president. I am monica lewinksy. :o)



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by Sounder on December 07, 2002 at 23:34:47:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by ------------ on December 07, 2002 at 23:03:01:

"""but i think about it everyday, and want it everyday. and find this frustrating and also because its like it has a mind of its own, until i have sex."""

Congratulations, you are now an honorary male. Use your degree wisely.

S



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by --------- on December 08, 2002 at 06:34:56:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by Sounder on December 07, 2002 at 23:34:47:

I am not male, thank you.

Could it be a hormonal imbalance, or a psychological problem?

Its making me promiscuous.



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by Sue on December 08, 2002 at 06:58:32:

In Reply to: Sex Addiction posted by -------- on December 07, 2002 at 21:00:07:

Might it be worth stopping to wonder what it is you are avoiding/covering up/stopping the pain of by being totally absorbed by sex?



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by --------- on December 08, 2002 at 07:26:58:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by Sue on December 08, 2002 at 06:58:32:

I do get a "high" from it and I dont just mean orgasm. it does extremely distract me, from what I have yet to figure.

Thank you. Something for me to deeply ponder.

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Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex.

Posted by Walt Stoll on December 08, 2002 at 09:56:20:

In Reply to: Sex Addiction posted by -------- on December 07, 2002 at 21:00:07:

Hi,--------.

This is a real syndrome. My best friend is a retired professor of sexology (taught for 30+ years) and he has it. I am convinced that his is due to hormones since his testosterone is off all the charts.

Walt



just a tidbit regarding thyroid medication

Posted by Black Gold on December 08, 2002 at 10:47:33:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by --------- on December 08, 2002 at 06:34:56:

Apparently my thyroid was low and after I started thyroid medication, my desire increased tremendously ... feels like I'm in my early 20's again :) :) :)

I'm a female & really never thought I'd enjoy it this much again. (I've been married 20 years to same man ... ) Husband is getting a real kick out of it and started taking some herbs, which really help him, to keep up, lol

Have you started taking thyroid medication?

Black Gold



Who, Bush?

Posted by Huh? on December 08, 2002 at 11:59:17:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by Sounder on December 07, 2002 at 22:51:29:

You do mean Clinton, right?

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Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex.

Posted by Adad on December 08, 2002 at 13:17:27:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex. posted by Walt Stoll on December 08, 2002 at 09:56:20:

Walt, is your friend bald? If the belief that male pattern baldness is related to excess testosterone then he should be bald, is he?



Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex.

Posted by Elisa on December 08, 2002 at 14:13:23:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex. posted by Adad on December 08, 2002 at 13:17:27:

They USED to think baldness was caused by excess
testosterone. Now it's known that it is caused by an
indidivual's own genetic susceptibility to even normal
amounts of testosterone that causes it. If your hair
follicles are programmed to baldness by your genes,
even small amounts of testosterone can cause
thinning and ultimately baldness.

So if someone has super high testosterone but no
baldness gene then he will not go bald.



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by Elisa on December 08, 2002 at 14:21:16:

In Reply to: Sex Addiction posted by -------- on December 07, 2002 at 21:00:07:

Go see the movie Autofocus and you will get an idea of
what sex addiction is all about. It has nothing to do with
being horny or wanting sex frequently. It is a compulsive
behavior that often does not even provide physical
gratification for the addicted person. They are not
having fun when they have sex, but instead are unable
to stop from compulsively pursuing it. It's like drug
addiction.

Most sex addicts find that they are NEVER satisfied, not
even after several encounters. It's like an itch that never
gets scratched to fulfillment. If you feel that way, you
might want to consider counseling.

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Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by Sounder on December 08, 2002 at 15:27:30:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by --------- on December 08, 2002 at 06:34:56:

Hi -------,

Didn't say you were male. I was making a joke about the male sex paradigm.

You probably should have your hormones checked as the doc said. My guess is that you probably have some issues in your past though.

Good luck to you. Don't be afraid to seek help.

Sounder



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by ......... on December 08, 2002 at 16:41:35:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by Sounder on December 07, 2002 at 23:34:47:

So males want sex everyday?

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Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex.

Posted by --------- on December 08, 2002 at 18:25:27:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex. posted by Walt Stoll on December 08, 2002 at 09:56:20:

Hmm Interesting Walt

I dont have any signs of excess testosterone. Such as excess body hair, voice changes etc, or any other masculine features. I was thinking about it last night, and it feels like an addiction.

This started for me from around the beginning of the year. Its also my age, but it worries me because its become consuming. I hate to say this, but part of it is like I am seeking happiness, love etc through sex. And at the time of making love, I do feel all these things. Its almost like what i use to do as a teenager, seeking love through sex, but this is different. My body wants it strongly now, not just my psyche. And it can happen anywhere at anytime.

May go and get my hormones tested if it gets any worse. What did your friend do to correct this condition, Walt?

But I think Sue may also be right. I think it maybe a cover/protection for some deeper issues at play.



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by -------- on December 08, 2002 at 18:39:00:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by Sounder on December 08, 2002 at 15:27:30:

Hi Sounder

I know it was ajoke. Sorry I took it the wrong way.

This is a serious problem for me, and is disrupting my life and I am feeling a little down about it and didnt want it to be treated as though it was a smutty joke.

Thanks for your input.



Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex.

Posted by Adad on December 08, 2002 at 18:40:10:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex. posted by Elisa on December 08, 2002 at 14:13:23:

So can genes be programmed so your hair falls out at 50, or are you pretty much safe by then? What about 55? What if a person found out that they only had one working testical when they went for a vasectomy? Even though the person never knew it because he had a kid each of the two times he had totally unprotected sex with his wife? If he were 49 and still had enough hair to fool himself into believing it is a full head of hair, could he reasonably summize that it won't suddenly fall out? This is a totally hypothetical question and I'm not asking this about myself, don't you know?



Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex.

Posted by ----------- on December 08, 2002 at 18:48:09:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex. posted by Adad on December 08, 2002 at 18:40:10:

Adad

Can you answer this for me? Is there any difference in the genital appearance of a man who has been sterilized? And is there a remote chance of becoming pregnant even if he is sterilized?



Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex.

Posted by Adad on December 08, 2002 at 19:16:03:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex. posted by ----------- on December 08, 2002 at 18:48:09:

They look the same except for a tiny scar on the scrotum. When a man gets a vasectomy he is not considered sterile until two ejaculations contain no sperm. The samples are taken a few weeks apart so even after a vasectomy it is considered wise to wait a month and a half. (Or maybe my wife lied to me) Of course this only makes one safe from pregnancy, it does nothing for any communicable disease there may be.

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Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by Terri-Lynn on December 09, 2002 at 00:27:56:

In Reply to: Sex Addiction posted by -------- on December 07, 2002 at 21:00:07:

When the I does not know who it is, then we can move from addiction to addiction, doesn't matter what it is, it is an excape; We can all get a high on many things, that is the question what is it we are trying to run away from? When we are not happy with who we are then if we stay in that false high often we don't have to look at the problem underneith; Is it still doing something for you? If it is, keep doing it until one realize's something is missing, still don't feel full filled; Then change will happen,because the person see's it for what it is; If we loose others, our mate or loved one's because of the addiction and life gets more miserable then also there can be a change in consciousness; You'll know deep inside and take an action when those times come, if it no longer is doing anything constructive for you or the other; There are 12 step meeting on Addictions also to sex one can go to;

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Re: just a tidbit regarding thyroid medication

Posted by Walt Stoll on December 09, 2002 at 08:14:53:

In Reply to: just a tidbit regarding thyroid medication posted by Black Gold on December 08, 2002 at 10:47:33:

Thanks, Black.

Healthy people ARE sexier than the average.

Walt

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Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex.

Posted by Walt Stoll on December 09, 2002 at 08:35:12:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex. posted by ----------- on December 08, 2002 at 18:48:09:

Hi, -------

Sterilization does not cause anything one can see without a magnifying glass (after a couple of years)--just a couple of small scars.

It is not fool proof though. I have personally delivered several babies from couples where the man had been sterilized.

Walt

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Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex.

Posted by Walt Stoll on December 09, 2002 at 08:36:26:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex. posted by Adad on December 08, 2002 at 13:17:27:

Yup, Adad.

He went bald in his early 30s.

Walt

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Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex.

Posted by Walt Stoll on December 09, 2002 at 09:43:41:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction (A real condition.) Archive in sex. posted by --------- on December 08, 2002 at 18:25:27:

Hi, ------.

High teststerone is but one cause of sex addiction. I think the psychological causes are more common but I have only my own opinion to say that.

Walt

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Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by Been there... on December 09, 2002 at 13:49:22:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by -------- on December 08, 2002 at 18:39:00:

Do you have family history of thyroid disease and have you had yours checked? If you're hyper, it can really increase your sex drive.



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by -------- on December 09, 2002 at 20:01:04:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by Been there... on December 09, 2002 at 13:49:22:

I am not sure if there is a family history of thyroid problems. But I sseem to have quite a few symptoms which are related to thyroid problems.

My doc had booked me in to have a series of blood tests done on a different matter, and thyroid was one of them. I have yet to do them.

Not sure what you mean by hyper.



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by Been there on December 09, 2002 at 23:08:20:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by -------- on December 09, 2002 at 20:01:04:

Hyper as in hyperthyroid (as in Grave's disease). Here are some more symptoms: Weight loss, nervousness/ panic attacks, headaches, vision problems, heart palpitations, indigestion, menstrual difficulties.....does this sound like you?



Re: Sex Addiction

Posted by ----------- on December 09, 2002 at 23:12:50:

In Reply to: Re: Sex Addiction posted by Been there on December 09, 2002 at 23:08:20:

That sounds like some of me. I have lost so much weight, not so much nervous/panic attacks, headaches occasionally, no vision problems, do get heart palpitations, rarely indigestion, and yes, I do get menstrual difficulties.

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