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I'm now having my first episode on the 14days. Haven't have any blood test to comfirm yet, as the doctor say to wait til the 4th week to check if I have the antibody in the blood. My partner had when for the blood test, he is OK...
I'm not sure if I got the virus, cos it doesn't itch but it does look like herpes. Strange things is the sore only on my left side of viginal.
At the moment I'm only taking the painkiller Ibuprofen. The frist 8 days I took about 3 times a days. Now I hardly feel any pain, so I stop taking them.
I really hope that, someone can explain to me if this is herpes or not.
Thank you !!!
In Reply to: Is it Herpes ?!! posted by isslliss on March 13, 2003 at 21:21:09:
Can you describe the sore a bit more clearly? Did you notice it 14 days ago? Any other symptoms?
In Reply to: Is it Herpes ?!! posted by isslliss on March 13, 2003 at 21:21:09:
Just in case it IS herpes, take heart. I had an outbreak so bad I could not walk the first two-three times. I quit my awful job and have not had any outbreaks on almost 8 years. Sometimes, when I am REALLLLYYYYY upset about something (like a death in the family or really traumatic) I can feel the area "tingle" down there, but it never erupts. Keep yourself healthy and HAPPY and it will remain dormant. That is the worst case scenario if it is even herpes. Also, there are lots of medications out there now, so don't get too upset if it does turn out positive.
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! posted by Anon on March 14, 2003 at 03:22:59:
I'm curious.
For those of you single people out there, is it difficult to form relationships, and then when things get intimate, how do you know/check to make sure the person with whom you are engaging in a sexual relationship or even just a one night stand, doesnt have herpes or some other STD?
It seems ludicruous to have to ask a potential partner to get an STD test before you will sleep with him/her.
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by Curious on March 14, 2003 at 05:06:34:
Unfortunately, Curious.
In this day and age there is little choice. Either you insist upon a medical checkup for all STDs BEFORE beginning a sexual relationship--and then insisting upon an exclusive relationship--you are playing Russian Roulette with your future.
Sorry,
Walt
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! posted by Anon on March 14, 2003 at 03:22:59:
To Anon..
Does it itch ??? Cos mine dont at all... Today it's the 14days... peeing not pain anymore... the sores are started to heal... Can you please tell me a bit more. It would help alot to ease my mind.
If you don't want to suffer like me... better have a STD test.. HERSPES = VERY PAINFUL + TORTURING !!! I hate my partner cos he is the only person I slept with and I had to suffer this awful PAIN !!! I HIT THE JACKPOT !!!!
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by Curious on March 14, 2003 at 05:06:34:
EVER HEARD OF CONDOMS AND ANTISPERMICIDES?
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by PHUCKER FACTOR on March 14, 2003 at 10:12:28:
'condoms and spermicides prevent pregnancy. They do NOT protect you exclusively from STD's. Look it up before you go off half cocked! Excuse the pun. lol
In Reply to: What do you do when you are Single on the Dating Scene (Archive in Sex.) posted by Walt Stoll on March 14, 2003 at 09:29:12:
That makes me sad Walt for all those who are single, and have to go through this. Just awful!
It really takes the romance out of modern dating to have to ask the apple of your eye, to take a STD test. Sheeeesh!!! What is this world coming to?!!!!
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by That Waz Silly on March 14, 2003 at 19:58:07:
Silly enough to abstain from sex altogether? Or just silly enough to think twice about what I'm getting myself "into" (pun intended)
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by Phuck Phactor on March 14, 2003 at 20:55:32:
You know, you really need to get yourself some "proper" sex education. I am surprised thaat someone in these ages thinks that condoms and spermicide are goign to protect you from STD's.
If i was single, I would probably do the same thing. Abstain. I dont feel like I need sex at all.
You know what tho, abstaining is really not such a bad thing at all. Sex is over rated, over hyped, commercialised, BS!
SEx is purely pleasure, thats all it is. just like if you have a great meal and say that was really nice, or go for a nice walk etc. They should replace the word sex, with the word "pleasure". Its just another form of pleasure, and this society is way over its head and obsessed with sex and it will be socieities downfall. Sex mad, literally.
I cant say I would do what Walt confirmed and ask a potential partner to get an STD test.
It takes the romance away.
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by not sexed on March 14, 2003 at 21:18:13:
A case of Sour Grapes.
Since you can't you are going to downplay it's importance.
Well honey, that's your problem. Those who are having sex and enjoying it would see right through your bluster.
Too bad you have neither romance not the lovin' that goes with it, and maybe "pleasure" is all the more sinful because
you don't have any, but you either need some in your life,
or need to buy a vineyard because the resentment is practically
flowing out of you like a river.
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by Phuck Phactor on March 14, 2003 at 21:38:06:
Cant? That IS funny! More like I dont want to. If I wanted it right now, I could have it at the drop of a hat. Sex on tap, for me. But I dont want to, and thats ok too. Its meaningless. So why bother with the effort?! So what?! Big deal.
Unlike you, I am not sex obsessed, or NEED to have it etc. Maybe you need to reassess your values.
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by Cant? Heh on March 14, 2003 at 21:49:23:
Meaningless.
Ok.
But just you.
There are millions of people for whom sex is not meaningless and I have no problem including myself. I'm in good company.
Enjoy eating your sour grapes.
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by Phuck Phactor on March 14, 2003 at 22:04:16:
Nope. not at all. My body doesnt want it. thats all there is to it. So if my body doesnt want it, then its going to be meaningless. Its certainly not going to be a permanent non desire. sex is just a baser need thats just not very needed nor wanted at this time in my life. well, and good, I can concentrate my energies elsewhere, like healing myself.
Just like if you have no appetite, regardless of how tasty the meal placed in front of you is, you are not goign to want to eat it. Get it?!
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by Not Sour Grapes on March 14, 2003 at 22:13:23:
I get it.
Do you?
You are hardly the one to be advising someone to abstain just because your bodymind is screwed up.
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by Phuck Phactor on March 14, 2003 at 22:35:36:
I was hardly advising ANYONE, including yourself to abstain. Go for it if thats what makes you happy. Please, dont let me stop you. We are all on our own path.
AND my bodymind is not phucked up, thanks. How you can come to THAT conclusion after just reading some of my posts is beyond me?! You are not all knowing or all seeing, you can only see a limited portion of who I am. If you think you can analyse me from a few words, you are dead wrong.
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! (what do you do when you are Single and on the Dating Scene posted by G.P. on March 15, 2003 at 00:40:08:
First from the fact that you posted at all.
And second, because you characterize the effects of this state as "meaningless"
So, and inherent contradiction. Lack of desire/sex is "meaningless" but it is important enough to post about.
you said: "...If i was single, I would probably do the same thing. Abstain. I dont feel like I need sex at all.
You know what tho, abstaining is really not such a bad thing at all. Sex is over rated, over hyped, commercialised, BS! ..."
Sex and the expression of libido is a healthy expression of the lifeforce. To deny that means there is something wrong
with your flow of chi through your body, and thus there is something wrong with bodymind.
Deny it doesn't change anything, I bet that as soon as whatever is at the cause of this state of being changes,
you will characterize sex very differently than you do now.
My intuition says Base Chakra imbalance & Sacral (relationship) chakra disturbance, but if it is important
enough, (or meaningless) enough, you will find the cause and go about changing it.
In Reply to: What do you do when you are Single on the Dating Scene (Archive in Sex.) posted by Walt Stoll on March 14, 2003 at 09:29:12:
This was in Dear Abby's column just today.
Dear Abby,
I'm a 56-year-old grandmother. The love of my life died last summer. As I cared for him througout his illness, I grew deeply lonely and despondent. Around that time I began having coffee with an acquaintance of our. To make a long story short -- he gave me genital herpes.
Abby, please remind your readers to protect themselves. This disease is a life sentence. The physical and emotional pain can be overwhelming. A couple of hours in someone's arms isn't worth the isolation afterward. Now this affliction is with me for the rest of my life. It's a horrible disease. There's nothing romantic about it. I'm an intelligent person who should have known better. -- Paying the price
Dear Paying: You have learned a painful lesson, but an important one. Every sexually active person, regardless of age, should be tested before engaging in sex with a new partner. It is estimated that one out of four sexually active people have herpes -- and 90% of them do not realize they have it. If everyone acted responsibly, it could save a lifetime of pain, embarassment and regret.
More information on this important subject can be obtained by calling the Centers for Disease Control National STD hotline toll-free number: 800-227-8922. It is open 24/7.
Best wishes,
Happygal
In Reply to: Re: What do you do when you are Single on the Dating Scene (Archive in Sex.) posted by Happygal on March 15, 2003 at 07:20:11:
Thank you for posting this article, Happygal.
Its given me a reality check, more than anything else, and maybe it will help someone else also avoid getting a disease that they would have to live with for the rest of their lives, for a few impetuous moments of loving.
I sure wont be taking anymore chances, or playing "Russian Roulette" again. Its so not worth it in the long run!
In Reply to: Re: (Archive in Sex.) Everyone Should Read this Story, and Stay Safe posted by Curious on March 15, 2003 at 07:51:47:
Oh happygal,
what a wise cautionary tale.
Tell me, did any of you make it out of sex ed with a passing grade?
You sound like that girl in the movie Clueless like this is new information or something.
Then to top it all off you complain it kills the romance, and in the same breath download your horror stories
"to share" If you dance to the music, you gotta pay the piper
So do it right when you do it, and saving your whinging for Miss Manners about lost "romance,"
In Reply to: Re: What do you do when you are Single on the Dating Scene (Archive in Sex.) posted by Saddened by Modern Life on March 14, 2003 at 19:59:54:
Thanks, Saddened.
I am afraid there is worse to come.
Walt
In Reply to: You people act like you never heard of condoms before! posted by Not a romantic on March 15, 2003 at 08:14:46:
Another one, spouting off about condoms. Where did YOU get YOUR sex ed?
Again for the record, condoms dont protect you from ALL STD's.They protect you from pregnancy and do a mighty fine job at that!
But YOU sound rather bitter and cynical.
lost "romance". Maybe one expects too much in this society of love relationships.
Sometimes it takes these kinds of "horror" stories to make one sit up and listen and take notice. Of course we know the facts, but thats all they are. Cold, hard, analytical facts. They dont really touch you, until you get a dose of reality in the form of the article, Happygal posted. Dont ask me why, but a personal account is a much more powerful way to get the message across. It touches you.
But lets see now? Hmmm.Romance or my health? I think I'll take my health, thank you.
In Reply to: Re: What do you do when you are Single on the Dating Scene (Archive in Sex.) posted by Walt Stoll on March 15, 2003 at 08:59:58:
"I am afraid there is worse to come."
Can you please explain your statement, Walt?
In Reply to: Re: Condoms Do Not Protect You Against ALL STD's posted by Curious on March 15, 2003 at 09:16:23:
The story is about herpes, right?
Well unless you've been sleeping under a rock, condoms DO protect against that.
What don't they protect against? I guess whatever can get through a condom to the "weakened"
immune system below.
Maybe you should read my post again. I'm not whinging about the loss of romance. Could care less.
That's just girlie BS as far as I'm concerned. But I'm not looking to catch something because
SHE wasn't careful last time around. So what are my options:
No sex.
Condoms.
Please, do not turn sex into some sort of *moral* decision either just because you can't come up
with some way to have safe sex and enjoy it. That's what the bible-thumpers and anti-choicers
use as their rationale.
I'm all for health, AND all for sex, and WILL have both.
In Reply to: Re: Condoms Do Not Protect You Against ALL STD's posted by Not a romantic on March 15, 2003 at 11:27:18:
Why dont you read the title of my post? It says Condoms do NOT protect against ALL STD's. Herpes is NOT the only STD out there and by saying condoms protect you against STD's is a very irresponsible thing to be recommending when you dont have your facts right.
And romance is not girlie BS as you refer to it. There are men out there who are just as romantic if not more so, than some women. Its too bad for you that you couldnt care less about romance. Your bitterness comes through loud and clear. Hope you find SOME romance in your life.
In Reply to: Re: Condoms Do Not Protect You Against ALL STD's posted by Not a romantic on March 15, 2003 at 11:27:18:
Thanks, Not.
Can you tell me where you get the condoms for your head? Do they come in different sizes? Many STDs are just as easily transmitted orally as genitally.
I would suggest you do some reading in medical sources about your facts instead of depending upon "street information".
Walt
In Reply to: Re: What do you do when you are Single on the Dating Scene (Archive in Sex.) posted by Saddened by Modern Life on March 15, 2003 at 09:24:44:
Hi, Saddened.
What do you perceive has happened in our culture (politicians, lawyers, physicians, education, etc.), the environment, the world situation, etc., over the past 50+ years?
What do you see that might reverse this trend? I can stand all the encouragement I can get.
Namaste`
Walt
In Reply to: Is it Herpes ?!! posted by isslliss on March 13, 2003 at 21:21:09:
I am going to say something very unpopular and it will step on some toes. DONT HAVE SEX OUT OF MARRIAGE AND YOU WONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT THESE THINGS!
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! posted by Mary on March 16, 2003 at 16:22:30:
lol! thanks for my first good laugh of the day. Yeah, that'll happen. :)
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! posted by Cheezi on March 13, 2003 at 21:55:23:
Hi Cheezi,
The sores are healing, but still feel quite uncomfortable, slightly swelling, today it's the 17days.
they look like pimple about 15-18 of them on the left side of the viginal.
Any advise of how and which is the most accurate blood test, I did not take the culture test do you think I should have both tests to be sure ??
Thanks for replying ---> Cheezi !
In Reply to: Re: Is it Herpes ?!! posted by Mary on March 16, 2003 at 16:22:30:
Forgot to mention.
Did you also know that getting herpes has nothing to do with being married or not? There are plenty of married men AND women who are not faithful. I am not saying of course, that that is right, but it is a fact.
Remember, the post on this board not that long ago, about the young girl who lost her virginity and from her first sexual encounter, contracted herpes? what exactly does that have to do with her waiting to get married to have sex? she certainly wasnt being promoscuious.
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