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Please pray for me. I am having a rough time. Pray that I get back to normal soon and get my head back on straight.
Also pray that I know what normal is because I don't know anymore.
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
Hi Carol:
Carol, what happened? Sorry if I missed any announcements you may have made. I seem to miss a lot of posts. I hope you get well soon.
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
Dear Carol....talk to us........I miss your posts.....
hugs
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
You have a lot of religions, a lot of spirituality and a lot of energy all pulling for you.
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
Carol, when you pray, be specific. God wants to give you everything you need. Even if we don't deserve to have our prayers answered, HE still does.
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
Hey Carol we're all here for you when you're ready to talk about it. Until then .. some extra special prayers are going up for you! :)
Please hang in there ... things always get better ...
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by PhillyLady [5444.2761] on February 05, 2007 at 13:03:08:
I really don't want to go much into it Jayne, but it has to do with my mental health. I've gone off my rocker and I can't find my way back. Thanks for your concern.
The SR doesn't work for me because I can't sit or lie still. I pace. The only peace I get is when I finally get to sleep at night.
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Jayne S. [6666.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 13:04:42:
I miss posting but I can't sit still long enough to concentrate. My days are filled with pacing, obsessing, and paranoia. I hope I can pull out of this. My family is suffering because of me.
I can't function, I am afraid to drive. Too much stimuli scares me. I am in hell, it feels.
To top it off, my cousin, only 43, died during a hysterectomy the other day. I couldn't even drive to Lexington to be with the family.:(
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
Will do Carol, hope you get to feeling back to normal soon.
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
I don't believe in prayer, but I do hope you get better soon :-)
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
Hi Carol ...
Try taking a nice warm bath with headphones -- and your favorite songs playing. Listen to the songs ... try not to think of anything else but the song and you ... somewhere nice.
When I was at my worst I'd listen to Bon Jovi on my headphones and picture my horses running and playing in the field. I didn't think it would help me but it got me through a dreaded MRI too. ( couldn't use the headphones then but closing my eyes and thinking of the song while picturing my horses worked too :)
I've been where you are now .. I went to the doctor and asked for drugs .. ANY drugs to help me feel normal. He gave me Lexapro and Xanax but the Lexapro made me sick and the Xanax made me really tired.
I swear to you it was a change in my diet that helped me feel "normal" again. And exercise. I walk/jog a mile or two on the treadmill EVERY day now and feel so much better. You can do it too! :)
email me at ... dsmith@allegan.net if you want to talk or even scream. I'm here for you! :)
In Reply to: Warm bath and Headphones ? posted by Dizzy Melissa [5109.2883] on February 05, 2007 at 14:50:01:
Allergies to certain foods can definitely mess with your mind. If I eat beans which I'm allergic to, I have the same type of nightmares every time. I'm sure some doctors would still say it's all in my head but I go to sleep calm and rested as usual. The nightmares still come.
Are you eating a PERFECT whole foods diet? Nothing from a can.
In Reply to: Re: Warm bath and Headphones ? posted by North [5501.2761] on February 05, 2007 at 17:17:17:
I just cut out a lot of the carbs ... I eat lite potato bread instead of regular and stay away from pasta and sugar. I do eat canned veggies because I'm addicted to canned green beans. :)
I'm eating a lot of chicken now instead of hamburger and steak ... and eating fruits, string cheese or popcorn if I feel I need a snack before bed.
The biggest change is my exercise. I work from home so I wasn't getting much exercise at all. Now I make sure I get at least 30 minutes a day and I feel so much better!
I'm looking into apple cider vinegar right now -- maybe adding that to my diet will help me feel even better. :)
In Reply to: Warm bath and Headphones ? posted by Dizzy Melissa [5109.2883] on February 05, 2007 at 14:50:01:
what do you plug those headphones into?
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 14:22:50:
Hi Carol,
Have you considered checking yourself into a stress center? Do they have them where you are? They can be useful sometimes. And of course I will pray for you.
In Reply to: Re: Warm bath and Headphones ? posted by Vince F [4572.3053] on February 05, 2007 at 17:31:39:
LOL .. a battery operated, portable, CD player :p
Were you getting concerned about me ? :)
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
EVERYONE who is a democrat needs prayers these days. Stress, oil issues, gas issues, prices, healthcare, and no one does anything to make it easier for us, our President should be in charge of the Middle East instead of the United States because thats all he cares about.
I'm stressed bad, REAL bad. Ive suffered with anxiety for most of my 53 years. I am the sole money maker here (self~employed working 16+ hrs a day, can't work out of my home due to agoraphobia) because we have had my granddaughter 5 days a week for almost a year now. (We LOVE having her, but it does wear on us and our bills). My daughter gives us money when she can. She's a teacher in a private school so my husband and I go well out of our way to stay healthy and keep the baby healthy. I have anxiety, phobia issues, my mom is in the early stages of alzheimers, her and my dad are both 83 and I worry everyday for them, I cook 2x a week for them, do their laundry, and thank the good Lord they are BOTH in exceptional health. My mom is on her 1st prescription med ever in her life for elevated BP my dad has been on it for many years. Ive had chest pains twice in 2 mos due to stress, anxiety level has been thru the roof, I got stopped last night for a revoked registration that I didnt know was revoked. I went out and picked up supper for my daughter so she wouldnt have to take the baby out in this frigid cold, she ended up having to to pick me up and take me home. They towed my car to my house and when they loaded it on the flatbed the front of my Camaro cracked and broke, looks like Jaws chewed it up. I had to pay for a bounced check to the registry I didnt know bounced when I registered the car in Sept., plus an excise tax I didnt know I owed ( my mail still sometimes goes to my old house so I guess I missed these 2 letters) I have to go court for the revoked registration, the tow guy towed my car home (I couldnt drive it) and the bill was $246. but because he broke the front of my car he charged me $50, so now I have to buy a new lower valance and have it painted, over $400. My granddaughter will be in leg braces in 2 weeks because her ankle/calf muscles need to be stretched. She is always on her tippy toes and not walking at 18 mos. She recently had a cat scan done for water on the brain where I was a wreck for 2 weeks awaiting results. Everything is ok. I have a bakers cyst, a hip that cramps up from carrying the baby, and a bad elbow. 1/2 of my rent is due today and I only have .20 in the bank because I had to pay on the car. My rent is $1100 a month and I split it $550 on the 5th and the 20th. I have contiplated suicide a couple times within the past few months, then I think of that little cherub face I care for and it leaves my mind. So...we ALL have issues and we ALL need prayers, I will pray for you if you pray for me. :-)
In Reply to: Re: Warm bath and Headphones ? posted by Dizzy Melissa [5109.2883] on February 05, 2007 at 17:39:00:
Yea, didn't want to loose you to an electric shock.((
I know there are a Lot of battery operated listeing devices. I use ear buds on my 1 1/2" square X 3/8" radio when out and about. I remembered the electric shock I got from listening to ear damaging levels listing to headphones on the stereo. I doubt I would have fried myself in a tub, but I wouldn't want to find out, and if Twisted Sister came on, one might want to change the station.((
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 14:18:45:
you said enough, Carol....I am sorry things aren't just right at the moment.... I think a stress center might be able to help.....You will be in my 'special' prayers tonight..........hugs
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 14:18:45:
Hi Carol,
Do you have health insurance or do you qualify for
medicaid?
If so, I hope you have had your testosterone and estrogen levels checked...
http://www.drmirkin.com/women/9182.html
also your thyroid could be messed up causing you anxiety and/or depression
http://www.drmirkin.com/women/1233.html
If you feel that I am bringing up the worst case scenario, at least read the articles and see why I
thought you need some tests.. You could be cured if the shoe fits.
good luck
Ron
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 14:22:50:
Hi Carol,
Please read my other post..
Maybe you also need to be tested for Lyme Disease.
See what fits in the link below
In Reply to: Warm bath and Headphones ? posted by Dizzy Melissa [5109.2883] on February 05, 2007 at 14:50:01:
Thanks, Dizzy.
Walt
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
Sending prayers your way, Carol. Let us know how you're doing.
Sapphire
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Terry [1914.1584] on February 05, 2007 at 17:52:49:
Dear Terry, I'm certain you have some joy in your life but much of it seems unneccessarily strenuous. I don't even know how you are doing it. But a few things do stand out from your writing. Everyone but you seems healthy and yet you are caring for them?
You know, Terry, you seem to be living five people's lives. Your husband doesn't work either?
Why have you found yourself doing all this?
Something is very wrong here.
In Reply to: Prayer Request posted by Carol [1362.3210] on February 05, 2007 at 12:48:38:
Carol, is there a therapist or counselor you can talk to? I've been where you are and I really needed that kind of help. Please consider it.
I feel for you.
Naya
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Sally [7059.1590] on February 06, 2007 at 13:56:49:
I forgot to mention I feed 2 domestic ducks on my lake 3x a week. :-) Everyone does really, but I make it a point to do this for them, Im a big animal lover. To be totally honest, my husband hasn't worked since 1997 when I had a MAJOR anxiety/panic attack. It was SO bad that I begged him to quit his job and stay home with me. My kids biological dad back in 1992 had me arrested under false pretenses because I had taken him to court for support, 1st time ever. My daughter was going to be entering college in 3 years and I needed the help, he never paid, but because I did this to him he made up a HUGE lie that I broke in his home. He was aware of the agoraphobia and filed a charge, set it all up, the day I was to go to court I freaked and didnt go...instant bench warrant. I was arrested. The next time I went my sister set me up with a psycologist friend of hers who met me there to help me. Charges were dropped, and for years I lived in fear that I would awaken in that cell that I spent 15 hrs in. WORST night of my life. This made my agoraphobia much worse and it hasn't gotten better. I really do need therapy, but no insurance at this time. With my business I make good money but I am totally overwhelmed with everything. And yes there are good day, several days I take off in the summer and take my boat out and park it in the middle of the lake with a good book, like Dr. Stoll's for one, this is when I am relaxed and not having a care in the world. My problem is I NEED desperately to go into therapy and talk out everything!!! I have a script for lexapro that I may eventually try, at this point I'll try anything. I am a good person and do a LOT for a lot of people. I would give anything to take off with my husband and spend 1 week in a cottage on the ocean, just 1 week is all. but the agoraphobia keeps me from this. I havent had a vacation since I was 19, I think its time for one. Thanks for writing Sally. If you or anyone would like to write me personally, I have included my email.
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Terry [1914.1584] on February 07, 2007 at 19:58:58:
Hi Terry, I wonder why no one else responded to your post although there were some things that were hard to understand. The agoraphobia, for instance, but you still can drive, are there different levels? And why isn't the tow person responsible for what he did to your car?
Do you enjoy the cooking and laundry? Some people find this therapeutic and I would find no fault with helping your parents but if it adds stress to your day and they are healthy, I wonder if they should help you out. Are you the type that can't ask anyone to assist you or can't say "no"? You can't keep saying "no" to yourself.
Is this true? You asked your husband to quit his job so you refrain from asking anything more of him?
You pay enormous rent but you have a lake, which sounds wonderful, but your life is too stressful.
Why not let your husband go to work, you stay home and take care of your granddaughter for three days a week. Let your daughter take responsibility as a parent. I would also think about moving to a place with more reasonable rent.
Maybe these suggestions aren't appreciated but I feel you have allowed others to take advantage of your generosity to your own detriment. Also, I'm not sure about your choices. Did someone give you that Camaro. Of course if that's your dream car.....
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Sally [7059.1590] on February 08, 2007 at 09:36:16:
It's ok that no one responded...thank YOU for responding. I'll answer your questions.....
Hi Terry, I wonder why no one else responded to your post although there were some things that were hard to understand. The agoraphobia, for instance, but you still can drive, are there different levels? And why isn't the tow person responsible for what he did to your car?
*****I am able to drive 30 mins. or so from home, but that far hubby comes with me. There was a time when I couldn't grocery shop and paid friends to go for me. The Alprazolam has been a Godsend, its nothing for me to get in the car and go alone and shop. Unfortunately to travel more than 30 mins. from home is hard for me and I get panicky. I'm hoping the Lexapro helps with this, I've heard SO many people say how well they do with this med. Ive missed a lot including my kids high school and college graduations because of it. :( Technically the tow dude IS responsible, but because the super bowl game was on, there was no one in my area on call, so this guy was going to take the car to east bum **** somewhere. So to save me the anxiety, I asked if he could bring it here, since he damaged it, we made a deal. The charge for him to take it would have been $246.and $25 a day storage, he charged me $50. To get the part and have it painted I found out yesterday would be about $300. I know he should have paid but it saved me a LOT of anxiety by bringing it here.
Do you enjoy the cooking and laundry? Some people find this therapeutic and I would find no fault with helping your parents but if it adds stress to your day and they are healthy, I wonder if they should help you out. Are you the type that can't ask anyone to assist you or can't say "no"? You can't keep saying "no" to yourself.
*****No, I don't find it therapeutic, I just feel I have to do it. My daughter is lazy and never has time for anything. We have the baby all week, I like her neat and clean. So when I do laundry I do hers and the baby's, I'm there anyway doing mine. I know I shouldn't, my daughter has a laundry room RIGHT BELOW her apt and could do it on the weekend. But she would wait until they were done to nothing. Don't get me wrong, she's good with the baby but housecleaning, domesticated stuff is NOT her bag. My husband and I clean her house every 2 weeks, its just mainly cluttered, I do it for the BABY not for my daughter.As for my parents, they havent had a washer since I was a baby. Septic I think is the issue here and no room for one. They do it occasionally because they know I have a lot to do, but I usually insist, and I cook for them because now that mom is in early alzheimers, she doesnt cook like she use to, and they LOVE seeing the baby, so I have them here Mon. and Thurs. for supper and they get to see the baby too because she is here overnight those 2 nights.
Is this true? You asked your husband to quit his job so you refrain from asking anything more of him?
You pay enormous rent but you have a lake, which sounds wonderful, but your life is too stressful.
Why not let your husband go to work, you stay home and take care of your granddaughter for three days a week. Let your daughter take responsibility as a parent. I would also think about moving to a place with more reasonable rent.
*****Yes I did ask him. I am afraid to be alone. It's sad I know, 53 years old and afraid to be alone. He can go down the road in the summer, out in the boat fishing with my son, I know they both have cell phones if I need him, if there was no way for me to reach him out there I would be a mess with panic. If anything ever happened to him, Im sure I would end up institutionalized. If he left to go anywhere far from here I'd panic. We lived in an apt. for 16 years and I worked my tail off to get this place because he loves to fish, cookouts with family, we have a boat, its great! But I want more, I want to travel. My nephew is getting married in July, 4 hours away and I want to attend so bad, so I'm hoping I can make it with a combination of the Lexapro and Alprazolam. Basically we have no life outside my 'safe' area, and its sad for him and me. With the meds I have attended weddings and wakes with no problem, actually sat down, enjoyed the meals and danced!!! I tell him all the time to find someone and have a life before its too late, he's 10 yrs. younger than me, we've been married 20 years, but he won't, he loves me too much. He cares for the baby, I help when I can, I run a business from home and this is our only income so I'm working day and night. BTW my family knows of the agoraphobia, (dad suffered with it all his life but managed to take overseas trips etc. without the help of meds) but they aren't aware that I fear being alone. There is a reason for this, feel free to email me Sally because I don't want to say it in this forum.
Maybe these suggestions aren't appreciated but I feel you have allowed others to take advantage of your generosity to your own detriment. Also, I'm not sure about your choices. Did someone give you that Camaro. Of course if that's your dream car.....
*****I appreciate you responding...thank you. I bought the Camaro in Sept., its my 4th one. I figure if men can have middle age whatever they call it LOL so can women! I got a great deal on it and its in perfect condition, was owned by a mechanic who kept it in tip top form for his wife, but he redid a mercedes over for her and used the money from the Camaro to pay for that car and the work that needed to be done on it. This is my life. :(
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Terry [1914.1584] on February 08, 2007 at 11:00:25:
Wow, your life is really complicated Terry. I congratulate you on keeping it all together. I would never deride anyone about their fears. I don't think people can help it. It's like people who fear flying. You can't be talked out of things like that.
It would be great if you could simplify your life but sometimes you have to go way down a road before you decide to make the u-turn.
I can't advise anything about your anxiety, it's also a difficult condition and it probably makes you the wrong person to be figuring out how to deal with it.
Is that how you discovered Walt's board.
If you need a prayer, I would say it should be for STRENGTH!
In Reply to: Re: Prayer Request posted by Sally [7059.1590] on February 08, 2007 at 22:36:45:
Thank you Sally...you're a sweetie!
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