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I am new here with a problem. Maybe its more mental than physical, I don't know.
I am turning 50 in 3 weeks. I look good, I feel good, I have very healthy parents in their 80's, dad takes BP meds and mom has never had to take meds all her life. I've had colds, sore throats, influenza maybe 4 times, haven't vomited in almost 40 years, have had diahrrea maybe 3x in my life. I read about peoples illnesses, mild and severe, I hear about friends/relatives with all sorts of disorders amd diseases, people dying around me, and here I am feeling good most of the time. Im not bragging, I am truly truly grateful and blessesd. Im afraid that maybe soon my luck will run out and something will happen to me because I have had such a good healthy life. Am I wrong to feel guilty? I don't know what to feel. I'm happy my family and I are blessed with good health, but I feel guilty because others around me aren't as fortunate as we are. Help ,e to sort this out and try and understand. Is there an answer? It has reached the point where everyday I feel Im going to come down with something, or some kind of disease is going to fall upon me, so I worry a lot now. Any help will be appreciated.
In Reply to: Should I feel guilty? posted by Lauren on November 26, 2003 at 21:45:21:
Your problem is that you feel guilty about being in good health? Tha's a bit unusual. Are you maybe surrounded with people who comment on this often? I somehow don't think you would even notice unless someone was unkind to point it out...
So how often is this a problem? Every now and then, every day? Guilt, like any other feeling, comes and passes. You should acknowledge it and let it go. You have really nothing to feel guilty about. Why don't you try to feel grateful instead? Well, maybe this is what you needed to hear :)
In Reply to: Re: Should I feel guilty? posted by S. on November 27, 2003 at 01:09:39:
Stop worrying or you might turn out ill & sick like the rest of us. You wouldn't want to be in such a position. To get rid of your guilt, use your healthy mind & body to help other ill people who can't help themselves.
In Reply to: Should I feel guilty? posted by Lauren on November 26, 2003 at 21:45:21:
enjoy it and stop feeling guilty!
In Reply to: Should I feel guilty? posted by Lauren on November 26, 2003 at 21:45:21:
no reason to feel guilty. You should feel lucky and do
what you can for those that you know that are not so lucky.
In Reply to: Should I feel guilty? posted by Lauren on November 26, 2003 at 21:45:21:
Hi Lauren,
It sounds to me like your feelings are a bit like "survivor guilt." It happens to men in wars when their buddies die and they don't -- a kind of feeling of guilt arises from still being alive.
It's really okay that you are doing well and are healthy yourself. Instead of staying with guilt feelings about being healthy, perhaps you can make another choice about how you want to feel. You might remember that the origin of your guilt is your sincere wish that other people could be as healthy as you are. So you might use your sincere interest in wishing that other people be well to start teaching them about how to have good health and promoting a healthy lifestyle to them. That would be making a very constructive use of your feelings.
Hope this helps.
Best wishes,
Happygal
In Reply to: Should I feel guilty? posted by Lauren on November 26, 2003 at 21:45:21:
Hi, Lauren.
Be thankful that Mother Nature dealt you a good hand. Now is the time to learn the wellness approaches that will extend your good fortune.
This just means that you will get better results from your efforts than most of the rest of us.
I know when I tried many of these things,I thought I was already super healthy. I still found delightful improvements that I did not know were possible.
Let us know how you do.
Walt
In Reply to: Re: Should I feel guilty? posted by Vince F on November 27, 2003 at 07:07:51:
no reason to feel guilty. You should feel lucky and do
what you can for those that you know that are not so lucky
I do this ALL the time. As a matter of fact, today, Thanksgiving, I am making plates for my elderly neighbors whose husband recently had a heart attack. Giving them a complete meal plus dessert. I always help other people, Im also blessed with a kind heart and feelings for others just like my parents. You all gave me a lot to think of and thank you for the kind and informative posts. All of you have a safe, healthy and happy thanksgiving. Lauren
In Reply to: Re: Should I feel guilty? posted by another Lauren on November 27, 2003 at 07:07:42:
I'll try.
In Reply to: Re: Should I feel guilty? posted by Lauren on November 27, 2003 at 10:32:59:
Lauren that is great. Someday we may all need the help and
if we helped others we won't feel bad about accepting it
but then we will probably Still want to help being who we
are.
In Reply to: Re: Should I feel guilty? posted by Lauren on November 27, 2003 at 10:32:59:
Hi Lauren,
I turned 50 this year, too, and I've found it to be a very powerful passage. Perhaps that is what you're feeling-- a time to re-examine your life and re-assess your priorities. Most people come to this place through some crisis in their lives (that's what midlife crisis is all about!) If a crisis does not bring you there, it can feel like you're agonizing over nothing, but it is a normal and very necessary journey.
Hope this helps---
ktj
In Reply to: Should I feel guilty? posted by Lauren on November 26, 2003 at 21:45:21:
I am a breast cancer survivor of 3 years..
"thriver" let me correct that
2 of my favorite creedos..
1. THE TIME IS NOW
2. Rise above it..
(which sometimes is hard)
We all have challenges in life
obstaces.. I have lost pals t this evil disease
Dont think .. or let negativity find a home with you.
Instead,, think.. well, if this should come my way
I will be prepared I am prepared to deal with
the cards handed to me.. it is a tall order, sure.
but..
THE TIME IS NOW..
Dolph
In Reply to: Re: Should I feel guilty? posted by Lauren on November 27, 2003 at 10:32:59:
Hi Lauren,
It is wonderful you have been blessed with good health and kind heart. Those are the best things in life we can ask for. Feel lucky you have them both and enjoy your good fortune.It sounds like you deserve it.
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