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Hello,
I've been attempting wellness for about three months now, and am finding that it's very difficult to do it since I have started a new relationship. To refuse treats, such as desert or a 'relaxing drink' makes me feel like a health bore! Actually, I have this problem among friends too, who make snide comments.
So my diet is not as good as it should be, and sometimes I miss an SR session (or two) if we are spending the day together. Also, if I'm at his, I cannot make my own lunch for the next day and have to buy convenience food.
Just wondered how others have dealt with the same situation.
Thing is, I'm sure the comfort of being with him is maybe worth a couple of missed SR sessions... what do you think? :)
In Reply to: wellness and relationships posted by kt [3282.1660] on April 13, 2005 at 08:48:48:
KT,
How important is good health to you? Only you can answer that question for yourself.. We all have faimly members who roll there eyes when they see what we eat or don't eat..But if you take a good look at the eye rollers, they are the ones overweight, sick and unhealthy..Tell your new BF that this is the way you are and you both can work around it..If he doesn't want too, then maybe you are better off with out him..As far as the rest of the faimly and friends go, let'em pound salt..
Silver Fox!
In Reply to: Re: Not what we think, it's how do you feel. posted by Steve [3019.1399] on April 13, 2005 at 09:30:09:
Thanks Steve. I think I needed a kick in the butt! I just need to get more organised I suppose. It's weird though, I feel I've really had to change my personality to accommodate wellness. I would have been the first to call someone a health bore before. I suppose we get what we deserve :)
As far as the eye-rolling friends go, though - it's strange that nobody would ever do that if I were on a health diet after heart surgery, for example. It always makes me frustrated, since it's only that they have had good luck so far that they feel THEY don't need to be thinking about this stuff.
Cheers!
In Reply to: Re: Not what we think, it's how do you feel. posted by kt [3282.1660] on April 13, 2005 at 09:42:22:
Hi Kt, I'm probably older than you, but I've been following the wellness program for about 5 years now.
I get teased by my immediate family and have for years.
My husband has gone along with my diet and supplements, but its been for me only. He did a lot of eye rolling and questioned the things I did. Recently he listened to cd a friend gave him on health. He came home so excited about what I've been doing for years. It came from a different voice and it hit a place where he is dealing with. Anyway, to make a long story short. He got converted.....
and is going gun hoe practicing wellness.
Hang in there!
In Reply to: wellness and relationships posted by kt [3282.1660] on April 13, 2005 at 08:48:48:
Speaking as someone in a similar situation, it is really tough to do that. When others aren't eating well, it is SO hard to eat well.
An example would be I was helping someone move, along with like 10 others. When we were done, they wanted to order pies of pizza for thanks. Of course, I don't eat pizza anymore. So I had to be the only person to go get a turkey sandwich from another place. It does feel weird and there are many situations where I end up eating somewhat bad.
In terms of the relationship, have you tried perhaps cooking something very healthy yet still tasty to take over to his house for a meal together? Might help break the ice a bit.
In Reply to: wellness and relationships posted by kt [3282.1660] on April 13, 2005 at 08:48:48:
Hi kt,
After years of suffering from illness, and finding the solution through the new lifestyle changes, I have finally come to the conclusion that if the people who love me do not respect the things I need to do to feel good -- that is not love. I no longer allow people in my life who undermine my health. The thing is to teach them to respect your needs. It's okay to be different!
Best wishes,
Jan
In Reply to: wellness and relationships posted by kt [3282.1660] on April 13, 2005 at 08:48:48:
Hi, KT.
That happened when I started it too. I soon learned that, "In order to have a successful relationship with others one must first be complete within oneself."
Listen to Happygal, Steven & Barb.
Serious wellness is the best path to a lifelong relationship I know of.
Walt
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